The human mind can think and process the past, the present time and the future at the same time. We continue our lives by building a lot of negative memories from the past to the present. We record a information from childhood to today as a permanent learning with the stimuli in that moment. This recorded learning; It may have a feeling that makes us feel uncomfortable in it, that we want to escape and want to be protected. Therefore, the mind waits with intense concern that such a situation is repeated in a complete trigger.
While we may have the opportunity to analyze some of the past negativities in the past, we carry some to the future by burdening ourselves. It becomes more difficult for us to continue with such a heavy load, and we start to think that we are tired and even turn in a vicious cycle that never ends.
Every moment, which has not been left behind, has not been considered as an experience, an experience, always remains as an agenda item for us and becomes governing our lives. To explain with an example; If a person who was exposed to peer bullying in his childhood, humiliated in the classroom, who was mocked by his friends, has taken this memory as a risk that should be kept in his approach to people as a risk that should be observed, and if he could not see sufficient approval, appreciation, acceptance in his environment and family; In their interpersonal communication, he tries to read the thoughts of others, makes efforts to control and realize what is thought about him, he avoids making speeches he believes that he can be humiliated, and sometimes he does not communicate. When a moment is fed with various sources, he may have created a system of thought that manages, determines and controls interpersonal communication, and may not be able to establish deep emotional ties, cannot be understood, or that he is in open communications at any time.
We are concerned about the re -experience of the effects we have taken from a bad moment. However, developing avoidance and control mechanisms make things difficult and thus strengthen its place in our daily lives. A situation in which we are trying to escape and defends is actively remembered in our minds and is being re -processed.
In order to cope with our bad memories, the discussion of the event, the situation and the feeling, the re -processing and evaluation of today; It is necessary to avoid excessive generalizations, to read the mind and try to foresee the future. In the process of psychotherapy, it will be possible to recognize and rearrange all of this.
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